You’ve prepared for birth, but what about your emotional and physical transition into motherhood? Here’s some tips to help you plan and recover; Rest and take things slowly Rest is essential in the early days. Lie down as much as possible to support healing. When ready, start gentle walks, stretching, or postpartum yoga. Listen to your body and your intuition, not what society expects of you. In an ideal world, in these very early days, your job is just to look after your new baby/s – it’s everyone else’s job to look after you, your home and any older children. Make a list of jobs around the house that you would be happy to let someone else help with and stick it on your fridge. Then, if anyone comes over and offers some help, you can ask them to pick something off the list. Doula tip: Try the ‘5-5-5 Rule’—rest in bed for 5 days, then sit on the bed for 5 days, and finally stay near the bed for 5 days. Staying in your pyjamas and close to your bed reminds you to take it steady, and any visitors that you’re recovering and not available for long visits. It helps if you can plan for this level of rest and support prior to birth. Talk to partners, friends, and family about how they can support you. You could also look into employing a postnatal doula to help you meet your needs on your terms. Nourish Your Body Eat warm, nutrient-rich foods like proteins, leafy greens, and whole grains. Stay hydrated, especially if breastfeeding and in warmer weather. Breastfeeding also burns extra calories, so keeps some nutritious snacks handy for those long cluster feeds when you can’t get up to eat. Keep taking a good quality multivitamin and iron supplement – your antenatal vitamins are usually still okay to continue taking once you’ve given birth if you have some to use up. Doula tip: More families are turning towards Nesting Parties whist pregnant, which blends a Western style baby shower, with useful tasks such as preparing meals for the freezer, getting your home ready for baby, and sharing postpartum wisdom. Embrace Holistic Practices Try a gentle postnatal massage, aromatherapy, or homeopathy. These are a great baby shower gift for those who want to treat you rather than baby. For an easy DIY home treatment, add a few drops of lavender essential oil to some Epsom bath salts. Pour a generous amount into your bath to help with sleep, pain relief, healing of the perineum, and relaxation of your muscles and mind. Doula tip: Look for a service called ‘Closing The Bones’ in your area. This is a massage and post birth ritual that some Doulas offer. Based on Mexican traditions, it can offer a blend of body work, birth debriefing and honouring the transition you’ve been through. It can be offered at many stages of life including postnatally, when going through pregnancy loss or during menopause. Professional Support In the early days, contact your GP or midwife if you notice any concerning symptoms such as excessive bleeding, high temperature or unusual mood. Midwifes are usually still available to families in the first couple of weeks for any post-birth queries. If you experience bladder leaking or discomfort, consult a pelvic floor physiotherapist. There are private providers available or you can ask your GP. If you’re struggling with breastfeeding, many areas have regular, free peer support groups. Theres a free 24-hour National Breastfeeding Helpline; 0300 100 0212, which might be a good place to start if you’re unsure about services in your area. Don’t underestimate the support you might need when you decide to stop breastfeeding, or the feelings you might have if you’re struggling to breastfeed. Depending on how you feel your birth went, you may have thoughts and emotions that you need to process. Some families find requesting their hospital notes or a birth debrief with the hospital or a Doula, helpful. For others, talking therapy is an option. There are also specialist postnatal mental health services available for the first 12 months after birth for low mood – ask your GP for a referral to your nearest perinatal mental health service. Whatever the issue, please don’t be afraid to reach out. Doula tip: It’s a great idea to put together a list of support groups and organisations in your area before you give birth, so you have them handy if you need them. Remember: Your Recovery Is Your Own There’s no set timeline postpartum recovery – it is more of a growing process than a return to how you were before. Wherever you are in your postpartum journey, accept all the support you can, and remember to be kind to yourself. Link to the article posted on the Gymboree website: https://gymbo.co.uk/news/solihull/solihull-doulas-top-tips-for-postpartum-recovery/

A book review of 'Why Tongue Tie Matters', by Sarah Oakley, a Pinter & Martin publication. This book covers breastfeeding issues, tongue tie division and how to get support.

My view as a Doula on what is wrong with the UK maternity system and how it does not support birthing people or allow midwives to work effectively.

As Doula's, should we be advocating and talking about empowering the women and people we support? Or in offering these things, are we actually removing power and choice?

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How can we become more accepting of Autism and support Autistic people to have better birth experiences?

This is a question I get asked a lot and, this year, I have seen a large increase in enquiries from people who are not yet pregnant. I love the fact that people are really thinking about their care and addressing any fears they have ahead of time. In essence, you can book at any time and the earlier you book, the more likely that your chosen Doula will be available around the time your baby is due. Also, the earlier you book, the more value for money you get as your doula will be available for questions and emails in all trimesters, and around the time of your appointments. The longer you have that doula client relationship, the more you also get to know one another and feel comfortable around your Doula so you are more likely to be relaxed during your labour. Many people choose to book around the start of their second trimester. I am very happy to talk to people and get them provisionally booked in during their first trimester and then confirm that arrangement and take a deposit after their 12 week scan (if you choose to have one). Once your deposit is paid, those dates around your due date are secured for you. Booking in around this time gives plenty of time for an introduction meeting plus at least two other in-depth meetings to talk about wants and fear, creating a birth preference plan and offer tips, support and information. The essence of being a Doula involves getting to know families ahead of birth, helping in pregnancy and knowing all your birth wishes, fears and expectations. However, sometimes circumstances change and you find yourself needing birth support last minute? Perhaps your birth partner is no longer able to attend or you find yourself in different circumstances to how you planned for your birth? If so, don’t panic. You can still get in touch with a doula right up until the time of birth and they will discuss with you how they can help. I can offer this service at a reduced price and you may find other Doula’s will offer similar.